Something such as this: “we really admire that one may manage the children in my situation anytime. Almost every other dads appear therefore clueless, therefore the mothers believe that’s normal. I am therefore happy with your participation.”
BOOM!
Big victory . I believe i might have also purchased her a couple of footwear for that acknowledgment that is thoughtful. (perhaps not she- is seeking reward for the praise that you- or. But bear in mind: it is a likely ‘consequence’!)