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“But… don’t you feel jealous?â€
“Do you resent your partner’s partner?â€
“Don’t you feel insecure in the event the partner is by using another partner or fan?â€
Once I tell monogamous people that I’m polyamorous, among the first concerns they ask is – unsurprisingly – about envy.
Do I’m jealous? How can I deal? Imagine if my partner seems jealous?
I am aware their issues. If I’m truthful with myself, my concern about envy had been a thing that prevented me from acknowledging that I happened to be polyamorous for quite some time. That I would feel too jealous and too insecure if my partner did the same while I knew I could love many people at once, I was worried.
Society encourages a number of harmful urban myths about love, intercourse,and relationships . In a variety of ways, culture glorifies envy: It’s assumed that if you’d prefer someone, you’ll be jealous if they’re with someone else.
In this feeling, envy sometimes appears as an indication of real love.
On top of that, culture makes us feel ashamed because it’s often seen as a sign of neediness, a lack of confidence, and unrequited love if we feel insecure or envious in a relationship. Continue reading “Polyamorous Dating: 5 Strategies For Working With Jealousy”