There comes a point in nearly every couple’s relationship when sex starts to feel-how should I put this delicately- lackluster. This is to be expected. Even the most passionate relationships lose steam after years of having sex the same way. Odds are there are plenty of sexual activities that you’ve thought about exploring but haven’t divulged to your partner. Well, my friend, now’s the time to share those desires and get a little kinky in the bedroom.
The word “kinky” can conjure up unsavory images: leather-clad ne’er-do-wells brandishing whips, the gimp in Pulp Fiction, and the terrible dialogue in Fifty Shades of Grey. But these are all extreme versions of kink and BDSM. Kink can simply be when you slap your wife’s ass or she calls you daddy.
Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to crank up the kink and add a little-or a lot-of spice to your flat-lined sex life. We spoke with sexual health experts and surveyed roughly 1,500 about their sex life. Sixty-five percent of people surveyed said they’d be down to experiment with some kink whereas only 35% said they’re vanilla. (Of note, only 24% of twenty-somethings said they’re “vanilla,” compared to 46% of people 50 or over.) So, there’s a decent likelihood that your partner is open to the idea of exploring kinks and fantasies in the boudoir.
How to talk about kinky sex:
It might be daunting to have a conversation about trying something new in bed before you’re actually, you know, in bed. But it’s crucial nonetheless: if you pull out your new moves in the moment, your partner might be caught totally off guard, and no one wants that. You want your partner to feel comfortable and excited about the experience, which is why you want to get enthusiastic consent before trying anything out. Continue reading “Wanna Have Kinkier Sex? These 10 Expert Tips Will Help You Get Started”