Whenever I tell people i will be polyamorous, the question of rules pops up frequently. Partners who will be a new comer to relationships that are open like to begin at the start with a couple of guidelines for just what may happen once they start exploring away from their present relationship. My advice for them could be this: guidelines don’t belong in polyamorous (or monogamous) relationships.
The Distinction Between Rules, Boundaries, and Agreements
It might appear bold to state that rules aren’t the right choice, but let’s have a look at what guidelines are, along with other choices we are able to think about.
A guideline is really a declaration that tells you what exactly is permitted or just what will take place inside a system that is particular in this situation, a relationship. Guidelines are enforced. You are putting limits on their behavior when you place rules on your relationship or your partner.
A boundary is just a relative line that marks the limitations of a location. In a relationship, a boundary focuses you need, what are your limits on you- what do? Continue reading “Rules Don’t Belong in Polyamory. Concentrate on boundaries and agreements for happier, more relationships that are secure.”