How to Practice Shibari
“The best way to get started in shibari is to learn as much as possible before touching a rope,” says Leila. “Reading articles and looking at pictures and videos online is a great way to get a sense of what’s to come.” The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori (Buy It, $28, amazon) is a great read to start. Or try Shibari Study: If you’re a new user, use the coupon code “SHAPESTUDY” for 35 percent off the first month of a monthly subscription.
- Scene time: The time you spend playing with skills you’re comfortable with and are actively tying or being tied.
- Lab time: The time you spend learning and practicing skills at or above your skill level before trying them on yourself or someone else.
- Bottom: The person being tied.
- Rigger/Top: The person doing the tying.
- Self-tie: When a person ties themselves.
- Suspension: An advanced skill in shibari that involves lifting your body off the ground.
- Floor-play: Rope play that’s done on the floor.
- Single column tie: The foundation for every other tie you’ll learn.
- Rope switch: Someone who enjoys practicing both as a rigger and as a bottom.
2. Find teachers that align with your values.
“There are a lot of ways to learn about and experience rope bondage, especially now that everything is virtual,” says Fuoco. “When looking for a teacher or studio, don’t just look for competence, but also look to see if this instructor’s values match your own. There is a shibari instructor out there for everyone; all you need to do is take the first step and start exploring.” Whenever COVID-19 permits, in-person conventions and local events can be a great way to connect with other people who’re also interested in rope.
3. Be okay with going slow.
“I think a lot of people from the outside look at bondage and see eroticism,” says Fuoco. “But they don’t see the years of education that’s behind that crazy video. Continue reading “1. Digest plenty of info before you touch a rope”